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Mentoring: Relationship assignment(1)

Hey Guys
Can we discuss these questions next time. As usual as frankly as possible. They are the posers I put up for real men.

Always better with one wife(woman) and One husband(man)
Always better not to be divorced
It is sometimes better to divorce or separate
It is sometimes better to have a partner outside the marriage
It is justified to have a partner if the spouse in house is unbearable
Always better to avoid domestic violence
There are some spouses that they understand only correction through domestic violence

The man is always responsible for the state of the home
The woman is always responsible for the state of the home
They are both responsible equally
They are responsible 60 to the man and 40 to the woman vice versa
Always better to be married
Always better to be married with kids
Always better not to have girlfriends
Always better to have wife as confidants
Always better for man to look after wife and children
Always better to resist outside influence on your marriage
Alway…

Mentorship on Relationship: the discussions(2)

Ever so wonderful on the day. 40 things I want and you want. Funny, that we had common wants and don't want. Not to our amazement, but quite fascinating, we learnt that itS not mY problem or her problem, but Men issues and Women issues.

Principle: An average man will want what an average woman may not deliver. An average woman may want what an average man may not deliver. The result: the law of the average can never deliver the best result. Compromise: Negotiate, so that the average man will become what the average woman wants, vice versa.

So why? Some say, women are emotional, and Men are Logical. Emotional being allowing one's heart to determine what one's head is asking for, and logical being allowing one's head to determine what one's heart is asking for...lol. But really, it just cant be that every woman is emotional and every man is logical. Mentor advised that most of the time it may seem so, but usually logic is found in emotion and emotion is found in lo…

Mentorship on Relationship: the discussions

And so it was that the first 'mentoring class' was held. The topic was Relationship. We looked at the three kinds of relationship(friendship)that one can have and one should note.

1. Confidants: those who are sold out to you. The are not moved by your mistakes, they stick with you all the way.
2. Constituents:those who are sold out to your ideas/achievements only. As long as those ideas and achievements remain, they remain, but they are not sold out to you. When you make a mistake or error of judgment they take to their heels.
3. Comrades: those who fight your fight. As long as there is a fight to pick, they are with you, But once there no fight, you become boring and they leave.

Two of the facilitators, Sola and Niran assisted in bringing both the spiritual and physical depth to the class. In particular I liked the covenant relationship between David and Jonathan(confidants); Moses and Aaron(constituent); Paul and Demas/ Moses and the children of Israel).

I particularly like the …
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VINE MENTORING GROUP(VMP)
This group was founded by Tayo Arowojolu
The membership was drawn from the 12 men who took part in the father's day play agenda on the 24th of June 2010 at NCC Edmonton, London auditorium.Two mentees and two special assistants were also added.

This is a collection of mentoring relationships that meet together on a regular basis for an agreed upon length of time.

Primary Purpose
1. Set important developmental goals
2. Build competence and character to reach those goals

Components/Methods
1. Mentor-facilitator and mentee
2. Peer mentoring relationship amongst the group
3. All mentees and 2-3 facilitators

Primary Objective
Accountable to each other on the two primary purpose above

Advantages
1. Maximise its pool of qualified mentors
2, Bonding and Building a network
3. Ability to move at a similar pace into greater responsibility
4. Multiple sources of feedback
5. Normalise a mentoring culture throughout the organisation

Disadvantages
1.Confidentiality
2. Not everyone enjoys gr…

PRAYER CHITCHAT (6)

PRAYER CHIT CHAT (6)
Jehoiachin: it was the mercy of God (2kings 25v27-30
A captured King, a subdued kingdom, and dejected people in slavery. Then suddenly the mercy of God descended on the King, and he began to eat with the royals.
This month in the mighty name of Jesus, you will be released to partake in the inheritance of the people of God. Amen.
Paul : it was the Grace of God (2 Cor 12 v 9)
Maybe there is a challenge you are facing, maybe there is depression that has hit you, maybe there seems to be no strength in you. By the grace that was available to Paul, this month you shall be immersed in that grace and flourish in Jesus Name Amen.
David: it was the favour of God (1Sam 16 v 11-13)
Yes, in the past you have been ignored, deprived, denied and neglected. This month of July is your month. All such that have passed you by, will come back to pay you big. You will receive an accelerated blessing that will catapult you to your rightful place of honour in Jesus Name. Favour that has been in…