LOVE AND SUBMISSION MADE SIMPLE
Dear Disciple
The issue of love and submission has become so naughty that some couples are really contemplating divorce. Recently, we have been discussing matters of relationship in the church at Edmonton, and I am beginning to see some issues differently that i want to share, maybe these things would help some people out there. I will highlight important issues and say a bit about each of them...
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We cannot even begin to advance any argument in love and submission, without submission been a character trait in one's self. You cannot submit to anybody or love anybody without first loving and submitting to yourself. The extent which you can submit to yourself and love yourself is the proportionate to the love and submission you will feel disposed towards someone else.
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So responsibility for submission must be mutual in the first instance. Submit oneself to one another. Once you can firmly understand this, you will understand everything. Submission and love will then be very easy.
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The next stage of submission falls solely on the woman. Hence, women have always been asked to submit to their own husbands. At the time the man proposes, it is the woman that has the responsibility to submit. She says I agree to marry you, and she stretches out her finger for the proposal ring. The man at this stage has no responsibly, he just make an offer(proposal), which may be turned down or accepted. So the woman must at this stage be very careful and responsible before accepting this man as someone who is going to be "own husband" She was not forced into it and she had her eyes wide opened when she said yes.
The responsibility becomes even more serious, when on the day of marriage she agrees to proceed and say yes. That man has become her own husband, no matter the background, financial, political, nationality, educationally etc, she has said to the world and before witnesses: this is my own husband.
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The spiritual aspect of it, even makes this submission to be unequalled with anything in her past. The woman is said to see her husband as her Lord! and submit to him as the church submitted to Christ as head. I cannot even begin to imagine the analogy, other than say...if you say you are a christian, and truly you are then submission must be as Christ/Church scenario. As we will do everything in reverence, obedience, and total surrender, so should the wife do to the man....her own husband. No one chose that man for you, so please don't fall out of submission. It is a submission of your will to the man, but the man must not treat you as a foot mat. We will get there one day, but not now.
5.
You therefore submit in everything including but not excluding:
Sex; Food; help; counsel; in-laws; friends; religion/faith; finances etc
To be continued. Watch out for the love requirement from the man/husband
The issue of love and submission has become so naughty that some couples are really contemplating divorce. Recently, we have been discussing matters of relationship in the church at Edmonton, and I am beginning to see some issues differently that i want to share, maybe these things would help some people out there. I will highlight important issues and say a bit about each of them...
1.
We cannot even begin to advance any argument in love and submission, without submission been a character trait in one's self. You cannot submit to anybody or love anybody without first loving and submitting to yourself. The extent which you can submit to yourself and love yourself is the proportionate to the love and submission you will feel disposed towards someone else.
2.
So responsibility for submission must be mutual in the first instance. Submit oneself to one another. Once you can firmly understand this, you will understand everything. Submission and love will then be very easy.
3.
The next stage of submission falls solely on the woman. Hence, women have always been asked to submit to their own husbands. At the time the man proposes, it is the woman that has the responsibility to submit. She says I agree to marry you, and she stretches out her finger for the proposal ring. The man at this stage has no responsibly, he just make an offer(proposal), which may be turned down or accepted. So the woman must at this stage be very careful and responsible before accepting this man as someone who is going to be "own husband" She was not forced into it and she had her eyes wide opened when she said yes.
The responsibility becomes even more serious, when on the day of marriage she agrees to proceed and say yes. That man has become her own husband, no matter the background, financial, political, nationality, educationally etc, she has said to the world and before witnesses: this is my own husband.
4.
The spiritual aspect of it, even makes this submission to be unequalled with anything in her past. The woman is said to see her husband as her Lord! and submit to him as the church submitted to Christ as head. I cannot even begin to imagine the analogy, other than say...if you say you are a christian, and truly you are then submission must be as Christ/Church scenario. As we will do everything in reverence, obedience, and total surrender, so should the wife do to the man....her own husband. No one chose that man for you, so please don't fall out of submission. It is a submission of your will to the man, but the man must not treat you as a foot mat. We will get there one day, but not now.
5.
You therefore submit in everything including but not excluding:
Sex; Food; help; counsel; in-laws; friends; religion/faith; finances etc
To be continued. Watch out for the love requirement from the man/husband
The bible clearly shows that the way to a mans heart is not by his ears but by his EYES. A man will observe,- give serious consideration to his wife's chaste and respectful behavior. God will use that as a tool to confront him with his own short comings and the need to change.
ReplyDeleteWhen God commanded women to submit to their husband, Not based on how he acts but based on how Jesus would act. It is not a womans words or religious zeal that will speak to her husbands heart, it is her quiet and gentle spirit that will tell him of Christ in her, the hope of glory.
Very recently I thot to myself that sometimes it is very easy with all this modernisation to forget the teachings of the bible on a couple of things.
ReplyDeleteSubmission can be pretty difficult at times but like Bro. Toyin said, it is not dependent on how the man behaves or act. The minute we really let that sink into us, then we find that we areactually making our lives and tasks easier. In a way it would actually help the man become a beter person and act better as well.