NO REASON, EVER, FOR DIVORCE...
And finally...the two were divorced. Tiger and Ellen...they are in their minds out of the Woods, but for me as a Christian, I think, now they are further in the WOOD. like a Tiger prowling for a meal, when the prey had been alerted that there is a Tiger, prowling, angry and hungry. I appreciate that not all will agree with this little piece, but hey, this is a piece of my own heart...
God hates divorce(Malachi 2:16), He has a prerogative to so hate divorce, because He instituted the marriage institution. For Him it was not good for man to be alone(Gen 2:18)hence he created the woman out of the man, so that the two can be one, naked and not ashamed. What God has joined together let no man put aside.(Matt 19:6)
Well you may then say but Jesus allowed adultery to be a condition for divorce, (Matt 19:9). I will say, it was not so from the beginning. Jesus made it clear that there was 'a way it was in the beginning, and then Moses for the hardness of your heart allowed that the woman who was found in uncleanness can be put away. What that tells me is that there was an original law(no divorce, God's way) and a second law of Moses(divorce, in unclean circumstance)This latter law, of course was to give a way to a man who did not want the wife to be put to shame by stoning, which was the punishment for adultery or any form of sexual uncleanness at the time. This was to allow the woman to move on, and enjoy the 'kindness of the man's heart' Its not every time that a man put the woman to shame and exposed her to the harsh realities of stoning. Joseph in Matt 1:18-19 wanted to put Mary away quietly, and the bible says he wanted to do this because he was a just man...also in John 8:3 Jesus refused to allow the woman that was found in adultery to be stoned to death. In these two instances, it was an act of Grace that is garnishee in love, absolute and true love.
It therefore follows that even in adulterous acts, grace and love can and should over-rule any decision to divorce. Yes, its difficult to want to continue to live with the-one that has been unfaithful, but sorry, the vows were made till death us do part, and for better and for worse. It seems to me that usually its the hardness of heart that lead to divorce. Mrs Wood was saying that she felt so stupid that she did not know about her husband philandering, and that she felt low etc.. That tells me that she is not as hurt because of the unfaithfulness, as she is hurt because of her low self esteem. I can accept that she feels low, but hey, your man is sorry, you have children and many more years ahead of you to decide against divorce. You have also enjoyed better times together...so I beg you, ponder on the good times and not the bad times.
Love conquers all. The damage divorce has on the couple, their families, their church or religious conscience, the society and parents cannot be overstated, and hence couples need to go the extra length before embarking on that narrow and selfish road.
God hates divorce, but He loves divorcees. It does matter to God that whatever, you might have gone through, He is there always to see you through.
God loves you, think twice before you say NO MORE.
God hates divorce(Malachi 2:16), He has a prerogative to so hate divorce, because He instituted the marriage institution. For Him it was not good for man to be alone(Gen 2:18)hence he created the woman out of the man, so that the two can be one, naked and not ashamed. What God has joined together let no man put aside.(Matt 19:6)
Well you may then say but Jesus allowed adultery to be a condition for divorce, (Matt 19:9). I will say, it was not so from the beginning. Jesus made it clear that there was 'a way it was in the beginning, and then Moses for the hardness of your heart allowed that the woman who was found in uncleanness can be put away. What that tells me is that there was an original law(no divorce, God's way) and a second law of Moses(divorce, in unclean circumstance)This latter law, of course was to give a way to a man who did not want the wife to be put to shame by stoning, which was the punishment for adultery or any form of sexual uncleanness at the time. This was to allow the woman to move on, and enjoy the 'kindness of the man's heart' Its not every time that a man put the woman to shame and exposed her to the harsh realities of stoning. Joseph in Matt 1:18-19 wanted to put Mary away quietly, and the bible says he wanted to do this because he was a just man...also in John 8:3 Jesus refused to allow the woman that was found in adultery to be stoned to death. In these two instances, it was an act of Grace that is garnishee in love, absolute and true love.
It therefore follows that even in adulterous acts, grace and love can and should over-rule any decision to divorce. Yes, its difficult to want to continue to live with the-one that has been unfaithful, but sorry, the vows were made till death us do part, and for better and for worse. It seems to me that usually its the hardness of heart that lead to divorce. Mrs Wood was saying that she felt so stupid that she did not know about her husband philandering, and that she felt low etc.. That tells me that she is not as hurt because of the unfaithfulness, as she is hurt because of her low self esteem. I can accept that she feels low, but hey, your man is sorry, you have children and many more years ahead of you to decide against divorce. You have also enjoyed better times together...so I beg you, ponder on the good times and not the bad times.
Love conquers all. The damage divorce has on the couple, their families, their church or religious conscience, the society and parents cannot be overstated, and hence couples need to go the extra length before embarking on that narrow and selfish road.
God hates divorce, but He loves divorcees. It does matter to God that whatever, you might have gone through, He is there always to see you through.
God loves you, think twice before you say NO MORE.
I have been privileged and blessed to have grown up in a house with both parents and I can tell you that although things were difficult at time and there were times it seemed like they would split, the fear for the child and the damage it causes can not be over stated to the child's mind but I am still grateful that my parent stuck together.
ReplyDeleteAs for tiger and his now ex-wife, all I can say is i fell sorry for them both or anyone in a similar situation. It can never be a good thing to divorce. Both husband and wife MUST do whatever it takes to keep the family together. One thing the former Mrs woods said was that she had no idea tiger was playing away in the woods. this can easily happen if communication breaks down for whatever reason.
It is important to keep all communication channels open when things are good and more so when they are bad. It is the one singular act that can save a marriage from getting in to a state that things fall apart in my opinion.